I have a vibrant and dear young ballerina friend named Annabelle who is way Down Under. Or is it way Up Over?... Anyway, she's in Australia where home schooling is evidently simply not done. So when we decided to pull Spencer out of school, she pretty much fell off her proverbial pointe. :) (lol I crack myself up!)I offered to answer her questions, and she was gracious enough to think about it and write them all out for me. I've decided to answer them here in case anyone else might have the same questions that I can help answer for them. (Anything marked "Q" is Annabelle's question, and anything marked "A" is my answer, just so ya know!) Here you go, Annabelle, in more detail than you bargained for! :)
Q: I thought from the post that only Spencer was being pulled out to do home schooling. Is there any particular reason you’ve pulled Collin out too?
A: I haven't pulled Collin out. He is only in pre-school two days each week for 2.5 hours each day. We home-school in the morning, then rush to cram lunch into our little (or not-so-little) bellies, put all the kids in the car, and then take Collin to school directly after lunch. On the days when I haven't been able to finish everything with Spencer, I'll just take Collin to school and then come home to finish school with Spencer. But I do have to say that although Collin really enjoys himself in school, it seems to be more of a social outlet, as he is only just now learning colors, shapes, letters and numbers since we've been home-schooling. It's just easier to keep him and Claire busy if I let them school along with us rather than try to keep them occupied with a separate activity.
Q:In Australia, home school is incredibly, incredibly uncommon. Only extremely gifted musical students or similar are ever taken out, and not generally until late high school. Is it common over the pond for people to home school their children? In Australia, students who live out west do School of the Air, on a radio or go to boarding school or some, though it’s no longer very common, get flown into school daily.
A: Home-schooling has become extremely common in the US in the past twenty years. I have to say (as painful as it is for me to admit my age in this way) that nearly twenty years ago when my parents made the decision to pull me out of middle school and home school me, it was not nearly as common. We were part of the vanguard. At that time in Phoenix there were two loosely organized home school associations that didn't offer that much. We were sort of "that home-schooling family." Now today it's become much more common. I know as many home-schooling familes as not - in the States. It's usually associated with conservative Christian families who want to teach their children their own world view and want to avoid certain teachings or institutional attitudes that are taught or generally ingrained in the public school system. However, there are other people who home-school for many other reasons. Some are simly do-it-yourselfers. Some are nonconformists of a more liberal bent. Some choose to home school because their child doesn't fit the typical public school learning style such as a child who is extremely visual, who has extreme ADD, or who has a need to spend hours and hours each day in sports or musical training (child prodigy). Because it's progressed so far, some home schooling associations offer about as much as a typical public school system in the way of academic classes, extra curriculuar classes and activities, sports teams, musical groups, graduation ceremonies, field trips, and social events for families. In Canada the home school situation is basically where it was in the States 20 years ago.
Q: How is home schooling monitored? I know you’d never do this Carmen, but couldn’t some people claim that they’re home schooling their children but not doing anything?
A: Yes, some people could do that. Some people do. I guess it's not unlike how some schools will pass a "difficult learner" through all the grades without ever actually addressing his/her academic difficulties and issues in order to make some progress. Both systems have flaws. It's definitely more difficult to keep tabs on everyone in a home school system. Thankfully, most parents who are home schooling are doing so because they care and are self-motivated. In the state where I grew up, we took a National Standards test every year. Ironically, my score jumped 13% the first year I started home schooling. Here in Canada, we have to send in a semi-annual report on the kids' progress. If the province is unconvined or concerned, they will visit our home and see how he kids are doing. I believe there are also provincial standardized tests that I can have them take to see how they're measuring up. Other families choose to use graded curriculum services where the work is guided and graded by teachers at correspondance schools. This way their children have grades, report cards, transcripts, and very trackable educational development. I find that the type of curriculum I'm using now is very well-suited for young children, but would be extremely difficult to track by a correspondence school. Also, it's not necessary for college-entrance purposes to have transcripts before high school here, so that might be a time that many parents choose to change their curriculum into a more trackable system. Tracking progress is also one huge reason I'm writing the home school blog.
Q: Why didn’t or couldn’t you enroll Spencer into a different public school?
A: I could have enrolled him in a different school. In fact, I could have switched him to the English side of his same English/French Immersion school. The reason we chose to bring him home instead is multi-faceted. First, he was very stressed. I believe the French factor was adding much more stress than we had anticipated, especially for a child who likes to be on top of things, who absolutely must feel well-grounded and secure, and who still has delays with English. Second, he was having difficulty socially. Basically, because of the stress and because he's sensitive anyway, he was hyper-sensitive and although he was developing some friendships (which he really misses now) it was taking a toll on his self-concept as some of the children from his new school who he was continually exposed to were dealing pretty harshly with him (beating on him on the bus, incessantly picking on him just to be spiteful, etc.). He was seeming to settle into this new role of social discomfort, and we wanted to push the reset button before he accepted it. We know he does much better with structured social environments such as Scouts, soccer, Sunday School, and field trips with home school kids. Another factor is that Spencer strongly attaches to those he loves. He had a true love for the children in his other school, and a strong loyalty. He keeps their farewell cards to him and reads them at least once a week. He left that school nearly six months ago! Since he is still sort of in mourning over that, and all the sudden change (new baby, new house, new country, new school, new language) seemed to be the straw that broke the camel's back. I wasn't sure that putting him in yet ANOTHER new environment would be good for him. Both Vlad and I thought making his world smaller would be the right thing for him at this point.
Q: How long do you home school for? Is it a normal 9 – 3 day?
A: No, it's a normal 9-12:30 day. :) We don't have to deal with things like roll call, lunch hour, moving hoards of children in and out of classrooms and buildings, school announcements, and tedious things like passing out papers to 25 kids. Everything we do is more compact and precise, and it takes less time.
Q: Does this mean the kids don’t get homework?
A: They have worksheets that they have to complete, but as we work each subject from start to finish together, they don't have any work to do after we've finished our school day. Spencer does have to do math sheets, penmanship, spelling, and phonics/reading in addition to the group stuff like history and geography. Some he does on his own, and some I'm there helping him with.
Q: Will you home school them forever and ever, or for a year, or until they’re high school age?
A: Technically, we can home school through high school. The original plan was to home school "until he's ready" to go back. We're not sure when that will be, or if we will want to continue home schooling long-term. We'll just have to see... I have to say, though, from a selfish perspective, I hope it's long-term, because I'm enjoying the changes in Spencer, in the family, and the extra fun and productive time I get to have with my kids while they discover the world.
Q: Will you home school Claire as well, when she is of schooling age?
A: We have Collin in a preschool program that we really like. The teachers are great and they are very active with activities, songs, structured play, etc. I plan on sending Claire in the fall. We were planning on sending Collin to French Immersion kindgergarten, but I'm sort of hoping the plan changes, as I really enjoy having him home.
Q: Do you worry about their social skills, because I can definitely see the up side to home schooling and the connection you guys will create but school is a big place of learning social schools and how to cope with the fact that life isn’t fair.
A: I'd worry about their social skills only if they were continually isolated at home, and not interacting with people outside of the home/family. That won't be the case with them, as I've called about soccer and scouts, they go to Sunday school every weekend, they play with neighbor kids every day, and soon we'll be doing outings with a local home school association. I believe they will have plenty of social outlet. Social interaction doesn't have to be at school - it can be anywhere other kids/people are. In fact, I believe that all too often the interraction they get at school is more detrimental than not, ranging in extremes from very structured (class time) to not at all structured (recess time and bus rides) and the kids who have pent up all their energy during class tend to unleash it on each other when they get to recess or on the bus and the result is not pretty. I also know that anywhere people are, the lesson that life isn't fair will be taught and learned, so I don't have to worry if they'll ever get that life lesson.
Q: Are you worried that you guys are going to spend too much time together? What I mean by that is… well maybe I’m seeing it from a teenager view but I’d go insane spending that much time together. And like, if you know, what if you guys have some sort of conflict, where can they go to cool down? Coz I know (again, teenager view) sometimes I love nothing more than getting out of the house in the morning and away from the house for a day.
A: A fair question. First of all, we try to resolve conflicts as they happen instead of letting them fester and draw out. So hopefully that will minimize the number of times we need breathing space. Not to say that those times won't come. I was also home-schooled and had a lot of at-home time. Although I can say that it wasn't always great, especially during the teen years with the desire to be out and the natural edginess that comes along with the age, we only had a few "I have to get out NOW" moments that I can recall. Hopefully we'll be able to maintain enough balance to be able to say the same when our kids are grown.
Q: I know Spencer was having a lot of trouble with bullying etc so I actually do support this decision you’ve made for the time being, but what about school friends and the ability to make friends? I noticed you’re reading with them “How to make friends and influence people” but is it the same as actually being with kids your own age and playing out in the playground at lunchtime with them, learning a sort of independence?
A: No book reading or study of psychology or social skills can take the place of making friends and real hands-on personal interraction. And that's absolutely NOT why I'm going through "How To Win Friends and Influence People." Going through that book is kind of more like storing up for the future...hoping that some of the concepts stick, and as they grow the things they've learned there will be a part of the well that they draw on when dealing with people. But it can't take the place of actually making friends, and I'd never want to take that away from them.
Q: I hope, at this stage, none of my questions sound… I don’t know rude or anything. I am just ever so curious, I’ve heard of home schooling only four times...
- Reference to it in Desperate Housewives, one of the first episodes this little girl says “I’m home schooled. I’m always around”
A: I know this isn't exactly a question, but I just wanted to address this - that home schooling gets a bad rap in the media so often. Esp. those in Hollywood who haven't kept up with the current realities often get their facts turned around. Home schoolers are not necessarily "always around." "Home-educated" kids could in fact be learning in a home-school co-op. They could be attending a conglomeration of classes scheduled by their cargivers but having nothing to do with being at home. They could also spend as much or more time away from home as public-schooled kids. It really has everything to do with personal decision as to how busy they are with extracurricular things. Also, the average home schooled student scores well above the national average on standardized tests. Many top colleges and universities have special recruiters and reviewers specifically for home educated students, who are typically known for self-discipline in study habits and academic excellence.
Q: Do the kids still get things like school holidays? Is it blocked or like could you guys effectively take a holiday, continue schooling or what?
A: We determine our own school schedule. Most people prefer to follow the calendar of the local schools. I plan on taking a more year-round approach with smaller, more frequent breaks throughout the year, and then a shorter summer break. We can effectively take a vacation and continue schooling. This is why we were able to plan on going to Belgium for sabbatical this coming year. (plan fell through) But we also have to keep in mind that its more difficult to stay the course when we're away so we have to be careful about that. But yes, one of the great things about home schooling is the flexibility.
Q: How is it when you have to manage Katya when home schooling?
A: That's definitely a challenge especially as she's teething and Claire likes to "play" with her when I'm not looking. I move her a lot from high chair to bouncer to playpen to floor and finally end up holding her. When all else fails I call a ten minute recess and spend a little time taking care of her needs then continue with school. It's not too difficult. Claire is the tricky one but stickers, markers, puzzles, and Sesame Street go a long way. ;)
Thank you, Annabelle for your honesty and your questions. If you have any more, just ask!